Got through week 4 of my change experiment. I have to admit this was the hardest one so far. I skipped planned days at the beginning of the week and had to do three days in a row at the end. With the long weekend in motion these weren’t the best of circumstances for abstinence. Made it though, the “stick” approach is a powerful motivator!
I don’t mean to get all awkward with false modesty and stuff. But I just got this e-mail this morning and it is the kind of praise that inspires me to keep going.
Subject Line: U were truly a masterful creative facilitator
Body: U make dreams come true. Thank u
I had a special moment this morning while I was wearing my Grace Lee Boggs t-shirt.
My son Darshan is three years old. He is biracial, and he is starting to ask questions about race and ethnicity (3 year old questions!). He thinks it’s really cool that I’m only Puerto Rican, his mom is only Chinese, but he is Puerto Rican and Chinese “at the same time!”
Today he noticed the shirt I was wearing and he started asking me who that was. He asked me if she was a really famous person, then he asked if she sings.
I told him who she was, he understood she is Chinese and probably didn’t get anything else. But I have been waiting for the moment to introduce hime to Grace, her work and her ideas.
She is certainly one of my heroes.
Check out her film - American Revolutionary: The Evolution of Grace Lee Boggs.
Helpful insight from the movements convening that I’m facilitating:
When we think of being in solidarity let us make a distinction between intention and execution.
It is good to stand with someone philosophically. That is very different from actually doing something that is in solidarity.
Furthermore, once we agree that we are in solidarity, and that we actually want to do something together, know that there will be no execution without granular planning, including tasks, assignments and lines of accountability.
Successfully completed week 3 of my change experiment. What I’m enjoying about having three clean days per week instead of a three-week cleanse is that I get to contrast how my body feels from one day to the next. It is getting to the point where I am really looking forward to my clean days, mainly because of how different I feel the morning after one of them.
Can you see it? It’s the light behind your eyes.
“ If what you are following, however, is your own true adventure, if it is something appropriate to your deep spiritual need or readiness, then magical guides will appear to help you. If you say, ‘Everyone’s going on this trip this year, and I’m going too,’ then no guides will appear. Your adventure has to be coming right out of your own interior. If you are ready for it, then doors will open where there were no doors before, and where there would not be doors for anyone else. And you must have courage. It’s the call to adventure, which means there is no security, no rules.
Joseph Campbell, from “A Joseph Campbell Companion: Reflections on the Art of Living”
This really is how it works!
Charles Blow wrote a brilliantly comprehensive piece on the NY Times today, an idea for constructing a conversation about race. Here is the link to the full article.
Following are a few of my favorite highlights:
Understanding this fundamental inequality, one that trails each of us from cradle to grave, is one of the first steps to genuine, honest dialogue…
[U]nderstand that race is a weaponized social construct used to divide and deny… The ‘racial’ worldview was invented to assign some groups to perpetual low status, while others were permitted access to privilege, power, and wealth.
“A study of brain activity at the University of Colorado at Boulder showed that subjects register race in about one-tenth of a second, even before they discern gender.” This means that racial registration — and responses to any subconscious bias we may have attached to race — are most likely happening ahead of any deliberative efforts on our part to be egalitarian. [This is HUGELY important to understand]
[W]e must understand that race is not an isolated construct or consideration. Race and class, education and economics, crime and justice, and family and culture all overlap and intersect. We can’t treat the organ as if it is separate from the organism. [emphasis added]
[S]ome immunity must be granted. Assuming that the conversational engagement is honest and earnest, we must be able to hear and say things that some might find offensive as we stumble toward interpersonal empathy and understanding.